It is hard to see how men can be expected to notice a distinction between professional sex objects and the vast majority of women if we can't tell the difference ourselves.I can't really post more of the article here, because of non-family-friendly topics, but if you are a parent I encourage you to click over. It argues convincingly that before any more progress is likely to be made on male culture to cut down on demand for girly shows and the like, women need to change their own behaviors which seem to encourage their objectification.
I am not arguing - nor is the author - that men do not need to control themselves and fight against other men who would treat women as objects. But I have to agree with her when she says it is inconsistent to teach your son to respect women, and then let your daughter wear clothes with words like "Too Sexy" and "Booty Call" on them.
I have often, and for quite some time, despaired over the clothing offerings in stores and what young women , even "religious" young women wear, and what the parents of these girls allow them to wear. There ARE modest choices around, but they are not on display or marketed, unless you go to LL Bean or some such place. When you are young, you think that people should judge you by what you are, not by what you wear. But the fact is that what you wear is what gives someone their first, and often lasting, impression of you. If you dress like a cheap sex object, it is not unreasonable that some people will treat you as such. It is a shame that each generation must learn this lesson for themselves. But this generation of parents (in general) does not seem to be willing to make or enforce reasonable standards.
YanıtlaSilpersonally, i've always been more attracted to women with enough self-respect to dress well modestly. a well dressed professional woman will always turn my head faster than some tart - not to mention i'll respect the professional more than the tart.
YanıtlaSilit seems like this generation has decided that a cheep thrill of having someone look at them a certain way is worth cashing in on their self-respect. but it's also a disconnect that the way they dress actually determines how much they're respected. Sure people should respect us for who we are, but who we are is partially determined by what we wear. who we are determines whether to wear clothes or that piece of floss and that choice says a lot about who we are. it's sad that so many parents are unwilling to teach that lesson to their children.
The current parental generation learned a few things from the Feminist and Sexual Revolutions:
YanıtlaSil1. Women are equal to men, and fundamentally the same.
2. You can't control someone's sexual identity or enforce your sexual morays upon them. Freedom is the word.
Is it any surprise that this has lead to parents who refuse to control what their kids wear or give useful advice to them in the appearances arena? We now have to relearn the hard way that sex is dangerous and the two genders are fundamentally different. It will be the children of this generation who learn it, and maybe they will teach the right things to their children.